Acting & Identity
QUESTION:
Hi Sheasby :)
Just want to say how lucky we are to have your newsletter coming through, I still think about your analogy about acting and catching waves daily.
In this current period of my career, I feel like I'm reluctantly swimming back to shore and am trying to figure out how to get back into the water. I moved back to my home state in September, not intentionally, I needed a break to save some money and recalibrate.
But I'm still here, temping full time in the city, terrified that I made a horrible mistake, scared that I cannot make a career here. I miss my friends and the community I started to build in Sydney so I am planning to move back in July. But in the meantime I'm starting classes down here at an acting school, I am hoping this will get me back into the groove and introduce me to actors down here.
My questions for you are, how do we move through the world as actors while not doing the job of acting? How do I get up everyday and go to work knowing it's not what I love? How do I stay passionate about my craft when 'booking a job' is starting to feel like a ticket out?
Thank you so much for taking the time to read,
I really appreciate what you do.
L-Town (name changed for privacy)
ANSWER:
Great questions
And thank you for the kind words L-Town
Let’s get into it
“Feeling like I’m reluctantly swimming back to shore”
I want to add 3 words to that sentence…
And that’s okay.
Giving oneself permission to give up
For an hour, day, week, month, year
I think is one of the most important things we can do in our chosen field
To me that sounds kind
Like you’re taking care of yourself
And that, to me, sounds sustainable
Which makes you bloody dangerous in the long run.
Moving closer to loved ones
Having some form of security
Taking care of finances
Starting classes to stay in the craft
And creating more connections with humans you resonate with
When I read all these things you’re doing L-Town
I see a young artist who is making hard but important long term decisions
Permission to feel like you’ve made a mistake
Permission to miss your friends and community in Sydney
Permission to feel like a drowned rat as you clamber back onto the shore
Permission to feel what you’re feeling
But when it comes to the doing
L-Town
You are doing it!
Making hard choices makes an easy career in the long run
To me
I read that someone is slowing down now so they can move faster later
Taking care of craft, wealth, connections, community, etc
These are big pillars that will keep you steady within the chaos of our industry
I congratulate you on your journey toward becoming anti-fragile!
This is coming from someone who spent the majority of his first decade in the industry as an incredibly fragile and brittle actor
Everything was acting
And when the storms came
And I hadn’t taken care of my health, wealth, connections, craft etc
When my sole identify was based on me getting the job or not
Or having an audition to work on
When getting a role was seen as my ticket out of my shituation
Poop would severely hit the fan
It took me a very long time
To realise that I was a “when I / then I” kind of actor
“When I get that lead role at the Opera House, then I’ll be happy”
“When I get that big budget movie, then I’ll behave like a real pro”
Nope
Sorry to say
This was not the case
(For me anyway)
I got the opportunities
But I was still miserable
Still complaining
And still frustrated
And because of my habitual self dialogue
Speaking to myself in a “when I / then I” kind of way
Of course
When the opportunities came
My brain stayed the same
My self dialogue didn’t magically adjust
Why?
I was too afraid to go first
L-Town
The whole industry is waiting for you to go first
For you to live the way that’s most important to you
For you to give yourself permission to do things your way
Regardless of getting the job or a big pay check
The fact that you’re taking care of yourself now speaks volumes
I see the majority of actors allowing their behaviour to be dictated by the industry
And I see you as someone who is going first
You are taking care the most important parts (craft, people, wealth, health, etc)
Without getting that big role - which many actors believe will be the magic pill
This leads me to your question
“how do we move through the world as actors while not doing the job of acting?”
I adore this sentence
Because in it
I see myself
I see an actor
Standing at a mirror
Desperately needing that next job
Trying to convince myself or other people
That I’m an actor
Here’s a question back to you, L-Town
How long in-between acting classes or self tapes is too long for you to keep calling yourself an actor?
How long in-between acting jobs is too long for you to keep calling yourself a professional actor?
Weeks? Months? Years? Decades?
At what point does it stop?
At what point have you “failed”?
I want to challenge you on something
The idea
The belief
That you are an actor only when you’re working.
There is not a single actor that I look up to
Who acts every day
Bloody hell!
Now that I think about it
There is not a single actor that I look up to who has even worked professionally as an actor every single year since turning professional
L-Town
I don’t believe you’re only an actor when you’re working as an actor
Or even working regularly as an actor
Acting
Like life
Is grey
Very grey.
Right now
I have zero interest in taking on any acting work for the next few months
I gave everything to a film at the end of last year
And now I have other things igniting my curiosity and that I’m finding meaningful and are simply of priority
And ya know what?
I bet my bottom dollar that in 2 or 3 months after writing this
I will be at cafe, sitting with my little growing family
And I will wobble
Like a big plate of human jelly
I will go quiet
My partner will say
“Hey… where’d you go?”
And I’ll respond
“I feel like I’m no longer an actor”
How bloody normal and understandable that I’ll go there
What’s key to me in those moments
Is that A) I give myself permission to feel what I’m feeling
That if I’m feeling like a washed up actor that no-one knows about and that I will never work again because I haven’t auditioned in months
That that’s okay
And B) To bring it back to what’s most important for me & for now
That’s where it’s grey
That’s where your individual values & desires come into play
So being honest and clear about what’s most important to you for now
Give yourself permission to bring it back to those things.
Back to your question
“how do we move through the world as actors while not doing the job of acting?”
Live
You live
Your way.
You’re an actor
And as an actor
Your job is to provide moments of human connection
So go connect with the world
Go be a human
A messy, struggling grey human.
It boggles my mind how many actors stay in the bubble of this industry
When their job is to portray a human being
The last thing a casting director wants is for another person to walk into that room who’s identity as an actor is more important that being a living breathing soul
The lens sees through right through it.
So go live
Your way
Acting is not going anyway
It is a beautiful craft that will remain for you whenever you want
And the more you dive fully into the experience of life
The more your craft will benefit in those moments when you do choose to return to it.
Hope this helps
X